Friends

The end is just a little harder when
brought about by friends.
(on you to know where this is from)

One must not mistake. We don't have thousands of friends around the world. We have few friends, and they are gained and kept with great difficulty. Some people have none. Real friends, that is.

Friends.... friends are the people who matter in your life, and they should make up for the most of what matters in life. Cause life is not made up of the things you do, but of the people you know. Friends are the people you know, and you understand. And friends know you in return.

You don't betray friends. And you wouldn't want to betray friends, it wouldn't really cross your mind. Yes, they know many things about you, and you know lots of things about you, and these things are not the kind you tell to everybody. But it's not for that reason that you don't betray them. It's because you understand them. It's because it would feel like betraying yourself. And because friends are few, and when you betray them, you lose them. And they will still love you, but will be... disappointed in you in a way. They would maybe even understand you (should they be real friends - which would imply that the situation that led to the betrayal was indeed of extreme conditions), but they would feel sorry in a way. For having lost you.

You don't expect things from friends. Except maybe for their trust and friendship in return. Because you understand them. And when they will refuse you, you will understand, and you will not judge. Friends don't judge. Even when one mistakes, a friend may point out the mistake, may give advice, may even accuse to some extent, but he will not judge. Because he understands, and he trusts.

Friends are the ones you trust. Not like you would trust them with money, because you trust banks with your money and banks are not your friends (even if they claim so in their marketing campaigns). Friends you trust them with your life. You give them a part of your life and you trust them they won't trash it. Friends.... you trust them with the real you, because you know that, of all people, they will understand.

It's hard to find good people, and it's hard to make friends out of them. It takes years. Friends are an investment. And friends are the ones who matter. The ones who you remember, and who will remember you.

And it is a sad thing to lose a friend. It's like a road that you could have taken, and that closes. It's all the laughs and the talk and the fun that will not be. It is all the energy that you will not spend on them. It is a part of your life that you will not live any more, and that you would have enjoyed so much. It's a sad thing to lose a friend.

A friend is not a friend in need. A friend is a friend always, but especially then when you would think you don't need him, but in fact without him you would feel like nothing.


(some ideas inspired from St Exp's Citadel)